双语：成为积极的思考者 决心和毅力必不可少(2)

自我评价结果。

3. Change your self-reinforcement:

改变自我奖励机制：

If you have low rates of self-reward and high rates of self-punishment when it comes to certain aspects of your life, then you want to modify this. For example, think more of how far you've come, how hard you've worked, acknowledge yourself for it and then see how much further you want to go.

如果你对自己奖励很少惩罚很多，而这似乎已成为一种惯性时，是时候改变一下了。比如，多想想你已经达到哪些成就，多么努力地工作，奖励一下自己，然后看看你还能走多远。

4. Draw conclusions with evidence:

根据事实得出结论：

Look at the evidence, look at the events, look at patterns and don't base your conclusions on assumptions. For example, don't just assume someone will cheat you because they look like or in some ways act like an ex you didn't get along with. Look at other elements to see if there is any evidence for your assumption.

根据事实得出结论：看看事实，看看事件，看看形式，千万别把结论基于猜想上。比如，不要因为某些人看起来像在骗你或是表现的让你觉得不怎么舒服，就认为他们的确在骗你。看看有没有其他证据能证实你的观点吧。

5. Don't:

别把事情过分个人化：

The majority of how people interact with you is due to their own personality, strengths, and baggage and does not have as much to do with you. Pay attention to how to differentiate between different interaction signals. For example, instead of immediately getting frustrated because the waitress was a little late attending to you, think that maybe she is having a really tough day or too may tables to take care of.

大部分时候人们如何和你交往都取决于他们的个性、能力和精神状态，和你其实没多大关系。注意如何区分不同的交际信号。比如，与其为迟来的服务生感到生气，不如换位思考，想想他今天心情不好，或者实在是太忙了吧。

6. Don't do "either/or" thinking:

别做选择题

Black and white thinking based on perfectionistic thought is counterproductive. Every time a thought pops up and has words like "should" or "must," challenge it. For example, instead of saying "this should be done this way," say something like, "I prefer it this way but I am sure there are other ways to do and am willing to be open.

基于完美的非黑即白想法反而会让你达不到预期的效果。每次出来一个想法，有着类似于“应该”“必须”这样的字眼，那么不妨改变一下吧。比如与其说“应该这么去完成”，不如说“我喜欢这个方法，但是我觉得肯定会有更好的方法能达到我们预期的效果。”

7. Don't do emotional reasoning:

不要太情绪化

This is a belief based on feeling alone without any rational thinking behind it. For example, you don't like such and such but you don't have any logical reason for not liking them.

冲动是魔鬼，这句话的确是是真理。例如，你总是没来由的不喜欢一些东西。